Rick and I decided to spend our honeymoon in China. We will be accommodated by a cousin of my mother. 
We looked forward to going away and spending two weeks by ourselves. But I had more reasons to go to China, too. After the talk with my mother some conflicts were solved but I was still unsure. My hope was to get some information about my mother's past and how she grew up in China in order to understand her feelings and her treatment of me. Now Rick and I sit in the plane and wait to arrive in China. I look outside and can't believe that I'm here. It's like a dream. When we get off the plane I have the impression that I'm  in a different world.It is all strange but attractive for me at the same time. 
We recognize my mother's cousin with the help of a photo she sent us a few days before. She welcomes us very friendly. At her house she prepares a traditional Chinese dinner for us. After the food my mother's cousin and I sit in the kitchen. Rick is in the dinning-room with her family. Fortunatly they all speak english . We talk a long time about my mother, her past, and the Chinese tradition. She tells us many I did not know. 
In the future I think a lot about this talk. I have learned something, but I still do not understand my mother . She grew up in another world than I. Her tradition and her way of living are different. My impressions of China help me to understand. Propably our opinion about life is not reconcilable. I will lead my life in my own  manner and I will try to join it together with my mother's life. Surely we will encounter  many conflicts again but it won't determine my life like before. I think I learned a lot in China, and I believe it brings me  closer to my mother.